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It could be high, or it could be low. Sometimes you love it and other times you may hate it. Your sex drive is an intimate part of who you are, but few people understand it. Don’t worry, we’re here to help.

Your sex drive, or libido, is simply your overall sexual drive or desire for sexual activity. It is different in every person and is mostly influenced by biological, psychological, and social factors. 

As you will see below, your sex drive goes through changes, but there’s always a way to make the most of it.

What is a normal sex drive?

Everyone’s sex drive is different, meaning there is no such thing as a normal libido. Some people may have a higher sex drive than others while some people may have a lower sex drive.

A high sex drive can be the result of several factors, including:

1) Regular exercise: Research has shown that some people’s sex drive benefits from physical activity.

2) Testosterone: Some studies have found a link between higher testosterone in men and higher sex drives.

A low sex drive, on the other hand, can be caused by the following:

1) Menopause: During menopause, the sex hormones in women decrease, which can cause a lower sex drive and difficulty becoming aroused.

2) Mental health: Some mental health issues like anxiety or depression may lead to a decrease in sex drive. Some medication used to treat mental health issues can also lower your sex drive, such as antidepressants.

3) Age: As you get older, you may experience a dip in your sex drive. Some research shows that there is a significant drop in libido after 60. 

4) Health: Chronic health conditions like diabetes and heart disease can cause sexual dysfunction and lower libido. 

5) Pregnancy: There is limited research on pregnancy and libido, but one study did find that some women experienced a lower sex drive during pregnancy. 

How sex drive changes with age

Yes, your sex drive does and will continue to change as you age. That isn’t always a bad thing and can be dealt with if you know what to expect. Here’s an overview of how your sex drive might change:

20’s – This is the age where both male and females can become very aroused very quickly. It is also the most fertile time for females.

30’s & 40’s – Although your sex drive will still be quite stable at this stage of your life, some factors may start to affect it. This includes a decrease in testosterone after 35, more responsibilities, and stress from work and other commitments. The good news is that women may start to experience more intense sexual fantasies during this stage and even have a higher sex drive overall!

50’s – After 50, men may start to experience fewer and fewer erections, which can also be affected by high cholesterol and weight gain. Women may also start to see a sharp decline in libido, which is a natural process that is accompanied by hot flashes, anxiety, and weight gain.

The good news is that wherever your libido is at whatever age, you can still use sex toys and sexual enhancers to maximise your sex life and remained satisfied.

Why have I lost my sex drive?

Losing your libido is a common problem that men and women face sooner or later in life. It could be temporary or permanent. For example, stress and anxiety can decrease your sex drive to the point where it disappears. Physical causes such as medication, alcohol, surgery, smoking and exhaustion could also play a role in temporarily losing your sex drive.

A big cause of a lower sex drive is depression, which is very different from simply feeling unhappy, miserable or fed up. It is a serious mental illness that can interfere with your sex life. If you think you may be depressed, you should speak to your doctor immediately.

Then there are chronic conditions that can affect your sex drive in the long term. This could include heart disease or menopause. Again, consulting your doctor would be best if you think your sex drive needs professional help.

How do I increase my sex drive?

Knowing the root of the problem affecting your sex life will make it easier to find a solution. Here are some things to consider:

1) Therapy: A certified sex therapist could help you deal with any psychological problems you may have regarding your sex life and performance. 

2) Sleep more: Not getting enough sleep can affect everything in your life, including your sex life. So get those zzz’s!

3) Exercise: A healthy body makes for a healthy libido. It can also help with stamina, wink wink.

4) Stimulants: There are many sexual stimulants like poppers, erection pills, blowjob gel, and delay cream that can help you achieve the kind of sex life you want.

5) Eat healthy: Besides regular exercise. Eating healthy can also help boost your libido. Also stay away from processed, chemically derived food products such as diet sodas, which can increase your risk of weight gain and sexual dysfunction. Instead, opt for organic foods, healthy fats, and well-sourced animal products.

Who should I talk to if I’m unhappy about my libido?

Your doctor can definitely help you identify any underlying health problems and suggest the right path for your sexual wellbeing.

If you suspect that your libido problem is temporary, you could also talk with a certified sex therapist to help you identify why and what you can do about it. If your sex life just needs a boost, you could consider sex toys. Vibrators, dildos or even bondage equipment could help put the spark back into your libido.

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