Often, too much pressure is placed on having the best experience instead of simply enjoying the moment at hand. With oral sex, there are a few things you can do to make it better for both parties involved, but this shouldn’t stop you from trying, failing, and trying again.
You’ll notice that oral sex requires all of your 5 senses to be involved in an intimate way, which makes it difficult to learn techniques from reading. However, knowing the role each of your senses plays can help prepare you for the best!
Oral pleasure & your 5 senses
Good oral pleasure requires the synergy between all of your senses; sight, smell, taste, touch, and hearing. Each plays an important role in making the experience memorable and sensual.
Sight: This is not an opportunity to stare at your partner’s genitals. Instead, make eye contact with your partner, after all, your eyes can be extremely seductive. A look that says, “I want you”, can help make the oral that much sexier.
Smell: Being up close and personal with your partner means that smell is going to play a memorable part. Although everyone has their own natural scent, you can still do a little prep work to get yourself ready, such as:
• Avoid perfumes or deodorants that can leave a bitter taste
• Use wet wipes for on-the-fly oral occasions
Taste: It is true that some foods can change the taste of your bodily fluids. So try to avoid garlic, onions, asparagus, and cabbage before oral sex and try more pineapple, papaya, or cinnamon.
Hearing: Keep communicating with your partner and let them know what you like and don’t like. You could even use some dirty talk. If you are the one giving the oral, pay attention to how your partner responds to your stimulation and follow their cue.
Touch: You don’t have to only use your mouth. You can use your fingers or even a sex toy to touch and tease your partner alongside your tongue. To make it more sensual, use some lube.
When it comes to giving your partner the best oral sex, it mostly comes down to communication since everyone is different and prefers different things. However, if your partner has a vagina, it could be erotic to focus your tongue on their clit, alternating your strokes as well as using your mouth to gently massage around their vagina.
If your partner has a penis, you could take it slow by using your tongue to massage the base of their shaft before slowly working your way up to the head.
Remember to gravitate to whatever approach suits you and your partner. Also experiment with different positions to get the best feeling and stimulation, such as 69 or using a chair for leverage.
Things to consider
Although attitude is everything, there are a few things you may want to consider. These include:
• Not focusing on the orgasm – just enjoy the experience and go with the flow.
• When it comes to enjoying oral sex, don’t get bogged down with rules, approaches, or plans.
Just prepare yourself as best you can and communicate openly with your partner. Over time, you will begin to understand what you like and what your partner likes. Then it’s just about having fun! Ready to live a sexier life?