SEX TOYS 101

So you want to try a Sex Toy?

So you’ve checked out a few websites, or maybe watched a couple of fun, sexy movies and now you’re thinking, “How about introducing sex toys into my life?” But perhaps you’re afraid it’s not for you. We’re here to tell you: It is. It definitely is.

Let’s get a few things straight: firstly, it’s fun! You read that right – it’s fun! There’s nothing dirty or sordid about playing with adult toys. In fact, it’s a completely natural way to add a bit of spice to your sex life.

Secondly, playing with sex toys has health benefits. Often, people struggle to orgasm with their partner, whether due to stress, emotions or other physical issues. But sometimes, it helps to step away from the situation and play a bit by yourself. And a sex toy is the perfect tool to help you. Moving it around, up and down, and experimenting with what works for you can assist you on your way to orgasm, and once you feel comfortable, you can then bring the toy into the bedroom to play with your partner. This can lead to a very healthy sex life either alone or with a partner.

From tiny bullets to vibrators to couples’ toys, there is something for everyone, whether you’re a novice or fundi. And there’s no right or wrong way to start, but we’re here to give you a few suggestions on how to start out, whether you’re single or wanting to bring an erotic toy into your relationship.

1) Choose your toy

This all depends on what you’re looking for: clitoral stimulation, G-spot or anal stimulation. And there are plenty of toys to choose from. Here, your budget will likely be the deciding factor, but choose one that calls to you. You might like one that looks pretty, or one that looks solid. The choice is yours.

2) Talk to your partner

If you’re introducing this into the bedroom with your lover, it’s best to have a discussion beforehand. Ensure them that the toy in no way replaces them, but instead is an added benefit for both of you.

3) Lube it up

Get yourself some personal lubricant – and be generous. You get water- or silicone-based lubes, and some vibrators packaging even states which is most suitable for the toy. Lubricant will help you insert the toy easier, and will ensure ease of movement.

4) Experiment

There are no right or wrong moves here. Play around. Go up, go down, go around. Go faster or slower. Find out what works for you. Once you orgasm, you may want to turn the vibrator’s intensity down as you may be too sensitive. Otherwise, feel free to go again!

5) Clean your toy

Soap and warm water work best here, but you can purchase special toy cleaners. Ensure you don’t submerge your whole toy in water (unless it’s waterproof), and dry it gently. Pack it away in a clean spot or, if it’s a real beauty, leave it on your bedside table as a feature!

Welcome to your newly improved sex life. You’ll never look back!