SEDUCTION 101

Looking to up the ante with your partner? Want to turn them on so much their toes curl? Then you need to learn the art of seduction. And it’s far easier than you think!

First off, you need to ooze confidence. There’s no point in planning an evening of seduction if you’re going to sweat your way through it  ­̶  that’s only meant to happen at the end, wink wink. Besides, confidence is one of the biggest turn-ons for your partner!

Start off early in the day by sending your partner a sexy photo of yourself. Or if you’re worried about someone seeing it, send a text message depicting exactly what you want to do with (and to) them that night. It will have them thinking about you all day and raring to go come home time.

Next up, do something unusual. Does your partner usually cook dinner? Offer to make food instead  ­̶  you can always go pick up your favourite takeaways if you aren’t comfortable in the kitchen. Then set the table with candles and put some sensual background music on. We mean it  ­̶  sitting in front of the TV eating dinner does not lend itself to seduction! Or do something as easy as washing the dishes or folding the washing. One less thing for your partner to worry about means one more chance for them to focus on you.

Run a bath, add bubbles or bath salts and climb in with your partner. The best aphrodisiac scents? Ylang ylang, sandalwood, neroli and rose (although not too strong  ­̶  you don’t want to end up smelling like Grandma!). Offer to wash your partner and let the sponge linger on their erotic zones. In an area with water restrictions? Simply suggest sharing a shower and follow the same steps. You’ll save water and get turned on at the same time.

Make out for a while. If you’ve been together for a long time, chances are you never have pure, passionate kissing sessions. Remember back when you first started dating and couldn’t keep your hands off each other? A big part of that was making out. So do it! Even if you’ve only recently hooked up, tell your partner they can’t touch you anywhere but above your chest for 15 minutes while you kiss. The tension will build like crazy and will leave you both wanting more.

Talk about your fantasies, and let your partner share theirs. But don’t just blurt it out. Whisper into their ear, and give their ear a nibble while you’re there. Then, if you’re game, act out the fantasies. Trying something new is a game-changer in a relationship, and can boost trust too. Just make sure you have a safe word if you’re heading in the BDSM direction.

Finally, have fun. Sure, you want to seduce your partner but it doesn’t need to be serious business. Made a blunder? Laugh about it and move on. Mess water all over the bathroom floor? Leave it until you’re done. Make sure your partner knows they’re all you’re focused on. Go forth and enjoy!

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