Choosing your first sex toy is one of the most daunting but exciting decisions you can make. It can also be a difficult choice since you’re faced with seemingly endless options.
The reality is that there is no fixed rule about what your first adult toy should be. It all comes down to personal preference. What you want to experience will be different to what the next person wants to experience. That being said, there are some guidelines which can help you make a decision you won’t regret.
Ask these questions in order to know how to choose your first adult toy:
1) Do you want to be penetrated?
Whether you’re a man or a woman, you may be curious about some penetrative play. For the ladies, this could mean selecting from a wide range of dildos designed for vaginal penetration. Since you will discover many shapes and sizes, it’s probably best to start with something smaller so that you avoid hurting yourself with something too big. You can always get something bigger later. There are also glass dildos, which lack the flexibility of silicone, but can be used with silicone-based lubricant.
If you’re keen for hands-free stimulation and orgasmic penetration, then try a vibrator with a suction cup. These have powerful motors in them that will pulsate inside you as you play with yourself. A suction cup also means the dildo can be fixed to a solid surface so that you can use your hands for other naughty deeds.
Anal penetration comes with exciting options. You could use a dildo, or you could opt for a butt plug. These have been specifically designed to be inserted anally and differ in sizes, depending on your experience or need. As with dildos, experiment with smaller ones first before moving on to bigger butt plugs. Some also vibrate, which means you will feel extra satisfaction. Vibrating butt plugs are also great for men who want to target their prostrate and experience the magical male G-spot.
2) Do you want to penetrate?
The beauty of penetration is that it applies to both men and women also. Men have access to a large variety of masturbation toys, such as Fleshlights. A Fleshlight is basically a realistic vagina which men can use to stimulate their penises as if they’re having real sex. There are also other masturbation sleeves on the market which all assist men in reaching the perfect orgasm with their perfect fantasy.
For something a little more interactive, men can try sex dolls. These adult toys are essentially blow up dolls that can be penetrated vaginally and orally. This can give men a more lifelike experience but may lack the enhanced stimulation that masturbators offer with their internal ribbed structure.
Women can also enjoy the wonders of penetration with strap-on dildos. Together with a harness, these allow women to penetrate whoever they want. It’s a great choice for those who want to be dominant or lesbian couples who want to experiment with penetration.
3) Do you like pain?
They say pain is pleasure, but for many kinksters that is what life is all about. Being into pain is awesome but requires a little more caution. To fully enjoy years of pleasurable pain, you need to be careful with what you do and how you do it. A good way to discover if you love pain is to get nipple clamps. These are small clamps that are fixed onto your nipples and can be tightened until you experience the amount of pain you desire.
If you’re in the mood for introducing pain in your relationship and you love a bit of BDSM, then a paddle or whip could help you. It’s a good way to start your journey into pain and gives you a reliable source of pleasure, whenever you need it.
If you know what you want and aren’t afraid to try it, then you could go for more extreme tools, such as medical and torture toys. A pinwheel, for example, can be used for varying amounts of pain. Dilators can be used on him or her as a form of extreme pleasure or torture. Just be aware that these kinds of adult toys are not usually for beginners and require a fair amount of experience and knowledge.
4) Do you like being sexually teased?
Some of us only want a little bit of added spice in the bedroom and want an adult toy that accompanies that. If that’s the case, then something as simple as a bullet vibrator will do. These little guys are small but pack powerful vibrations. They can be used to tickle and tease your body or your partner’s body during foreplay and sex.
An easy way to make your life a little sexier is a feather tickler. As the name suggests, it’s feathers that tickle you! They can be used during foreplay when you want to stimulate your partner’s body.
Another way to tease yourself or your partner is with nipples bells. These target our already sensitive nipples in a way that feels better than anything else. They’re perfect to get you in the mood and ready to have a wild night of fun.
5) Do you want to experience BDSM?
The popularity of BDSM has exploded over the last few years. The result is that more and more people are willing to try this in their sex lives with a partner. If you’re one of those individuals, then there are a few good BDSM toys to choose from to get started.
The most basic way to get a taste of this lifestyle is with a pair of handcuffs and a blindfold. It’s obvious what you will do with these. Despite them being simple, they are also timeless. The reason is because it can give you a thrill every time and can be used almost anywhere.
If you are a little more serious about BDSM and have a more confident understanding of your fetishes, you can try more advanced BDSM furniture. A pillory, for example, can give you a truly memorable doggystyle experience while chastity equipment will let you embrace your submissive fantasies.