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BONDAGE TOYS FOR BEGINNERS

When it comes to bondage, it’s easier said than done. People train for years to become good enough to be even considered professional. However, that doesn’t mean you can’t try it yourself.

Instead of jumping into techniques you see in porn, which can give false representations of bondage and can even be dangerous if you’re a BDSM beginner, there are effective bondage adult toys you can use to help you get started safely.

These are toys that professionals and seasoned bondage enthusiasts would probably also use. Their design, however, makes them accessible to those who have limited bondage experience but really want to sink their teeth in the lifestyle.

A list of excellent BDSM sex toys for beginners:

Spreader Bar

It does exactly what it says, it spreads your legs or your arms. A spreader bar is easy to use on your submissive partner. It also gives you easy access for long BDSM sessions without having to be a bondage professional.

While spreader bars come in various designs, the basic concept is the same. Either your ankles or your wrists are secured in the cuffs on either end of the bar. Depending on the bar, you can then expand it. When attached to your partner’s ankles, spreading the bar means spreading their legs.

These devices can also be combined with other bondage accessories, like handcuffs or even a collar. This makes it a good tool for those that intend to go far on their bondage journey.

Try out this spreader bar with cuffs to open up your submissive partner.

Handcuffs

The ultimate bondage classic. Cuffs are so simple yet so effective in delivering an immersive experience. An experience that will leave a submissive feeling satisfied and a Dom feeling empowered. Cuffs are especially good for first-timers who need a way to test the waters.

You can get leather cuffs, chains or even traditional steel handcuffs. The decision is yours, but the purpose remains the same. All you need to do is cuff your partner whenever you’re ready. This can be before sex, when you can cuff your partner to the bed and tease their body. Or it can be during sex when you want to experience what it’s like to have your way with your partner without them being able to stop you.

The nice thing about handcuffs is that they can be stored away easily. And even if you’re not keen on going full speed down the bondage road, you can still use it whenever you’re feeling ready to take things further.

Ankle cuffs

Ankle cuffs work the same way as handcuffs, except that they go on your ankles. They can be easily incorporated into your sex life without having to fully commit to bondage. They are great to use together with handcuffs to restrict your partner’s movement, but they can also be used on their own.

If you do use them on their own, try using ankle cuffs that are linked with a chain. This way your partner can still move around the room and get into different positions for further bondage play or even sex.

These ankle cuffs have a chain to allow some movement, but not too much.

Bed shackles

If you’re really keen on trying an authentic and engaging bondage experience, then bondage shackles can do the trick. They can allow you to restrain your partner to a bed, making them incapable of escape. This can then be followed with naughty foreplay or more.

Setting up and using bed shackles doesn’t take long, nor do you have to worry about what goes where. It’s simple and efficient. It’s also comfortable for the restrained partner, meaning you can have long bondage sessions without pain or potential injury.

Don’t know what bed shackles to get? These ones are a good place to start and can let you experience the thrill of restraint.

Pillory

A pillory is one of the more expensive bondage tools out there. That being said, it is a wonderful asset to have if you want to fully immerse yourself in the bondage lifestyle. A pillory essentially restrains your partner in a doggystyle position.

It can give you unrestricted action to your partner’s backside for as long as you want. The reason why it’s great for beginners is that it’s fairly straightforward to set up and use. It’s also relatively safe, provided you agree to the rules with your partner before you restrain them in the pillory.

You could build your own pillory, or you could get this one. It’s strong, effective and will let you enjoy your partner in true bondage fashion.

Read up more about different bondage positions before attempting any on your own. Also remember to thoroughly discuss any potential bondage practices with your partner and to agree on your rules and boundaries beforehand. The moment any partner feels pain, stop.