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How to stimulate your clitoris

You orgasm every time when having sex with your partner, right? Uh, no: it’s actually unlikely – in fact, a Journal of Sex Research study found that 67 percent of heterosexual women admitted to occasionally faking orgasm. Which isn’t too surprising, considering how the majority of women struggle to orgasm from vaginal stimulation (penetration) alone. They need clitoral stimulation too.

Which is where that magical invention – clitoral stimulators  – come in… Because let’s admit it, sometimes you need a little help, right? Whether it’s just to nudge you in the right direction or show your partner where you like to be touched, adult toys like clitoral vibrators are essential in every person’s sex toy kit. It can even help you out if you suffer from anorgasmia, a condition in which one struggles to reach orgasm, as it gives you time to experiment with that works for you in a relaxed environment.

So how do you use it? Firstly, take a look at the range of clitoral vibes and see which one catches your eye. From mini bullets to larger wand massagers, they all have one thing in common: to provide intense stimulation to your clitoris. It all depends on what you’re comfortable with – something small and dainty, or something larger (don’t we all love that?!).

(Fun fact: the wand massager was originally produced as a massager for relieving muscle pain and tension, and was first used as a clitoral vibrator in the late Sixties!)

Then, relax! That’s very important for orgasm. Then lube up and play around. See what you’re comfortable with: it may be a clockwise motion or anti-clockwise, up or down, fast or slow. You’ll find your vibrator has different speeds and may even have pulse settings, so experiment. There is no wrong move here! Take as long as you like – just make sure your clitoris doesn’t become too sensitive. And then enjoy the explosive result. It is oh-so-good!

It doesn’t matter if you don’t orgasm first time – that’s also okay. Keep trying and, most importantly, have fun. Because what’s sex for if not to have fun? If you’re using this during sex with a male partner and he wants to get involved, try the vibe on his perineum – he’s almost guaranteed to love it! There’s no turning back now…

Note: If you are unable to orgasm after continually trying with a clitoral vibrator, either alone or with a partner, you may suffer from anorgasmia. You may need to seek help from a psychologist or sex therapist. 

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