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FUN THREESOME FAQ

Have you and your partner ever thought about bringing an extra person into the bedroom for a threesome? You’re not alone. In fact, being with 3 or more people at the same time is one of the most common sexual fantasies.

Despite this, it may seem awkward having these fantasies. But the reality is that many people are exploring these scenarios to their own delight, and you can too.

What's your ideal threesome?

When bringing another person into your sexual adventures, it’s obviously necessary to discuss it first with your partner. Usually, lovers would have discussed the possibility of a threesome for a while before taking things further. These discussions include what each one of you is looking for if you were to act on your fantasies.

Here are some of the questions you may want to ask each other and yourself.

What's allowed during the threesome?

Who can touch what and when? Also, what are the boundaries and when is something going too far? Honest conversation beforehand can help avoid any unwelcome surprises that may lead to a negative experience and a ruined atmosphere.

How do you initiate a threesome?

If it’s you and your partner’s first time meeting up with a potential third, you’d probably be nervous, which is normal. You could then approach the experience as if you were on a date. Go out for a few drinks together with them, feel the mood, and move to the bedroom or hotel when you’re ready. If you as a couple don’t have anyone to meet up with yet, you could try going to a swinger’s party or upmarket bar to test the waters.

How long does a threesome normally last?

That’s entirely up to you and your SO. Some people prefer all-nighters while others want something short and sweet.

Should we call the third person the next day?

Just as you and your partner are going through something new and exciting, don’t forget that your third is also a human going through similar if not the same feelings. Give them a call and let them know how it went and if you would be interested to invite them over again.

Did your feelings change (positively or negatively) about your partner afterwards?

This is something that many couples are anxious about even before initiating a threesome. The simplest answer is that if you and your partner are mature enough in your relationship and know what you want then it shouldn’t be a problem. However, if your relationship is rocky, and your bedroom is equally shaky, then you’re likely not ready for another person in your life.

Should you have your third stay over?

That depends on how long you want to enjoy the threesome and how well the night goes. Again, it is up to each and every couple to decide what’s best for them and if you feel comfortable with your third and don’t want the night to stop, then why not let them stay over?

Best sex toys for threesomes

Definitely include some sex toys in your fantasy experience to make the best of it. The first and most obvious addition should be lube and lots of it! Not only does it make sex more sensual, but it will also help you keep going all night long.

Vibrators and dildos are other great choices for a kinky night. You can get more orgasms out of each other even if one of you needs to take a break somewhere in between all the action.

Very important tips:

Remember to always lay the ground rules beforehand and make sure your third understands them completely.

On the note of ground rules, you should also not be too stressed and tense. Enjoy the moment and be open-minded, within your boundaries.

Try to also not get too drunk. Not because it will dampen your experience, you may end up enjoying it more. But there’s a chance you could end up enjoying it a bit too much and regret it the next day.

If you and your partner intend on having regular threesomes, then consider playing safely by using condoms and a sex toy cleaner if you want to use your adult toys on all partners.

Threesomes are a common fantasy that many couples have had, and many couples have experienced. You could be next, and if it’s something you’ve discussed with your partner, perhaps it’s time to ask each other some of the questions laid out above.

If you have already decided to have a threesome, or have tried one and want to make the next one better, then check out some of these sexual stimulants, which are sure to get your heart racing and libido pumping.

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